Most of the times, I write on being together...forever...like no matter what...
But that is if that's what you really want and you are happy to have it.
Otherwise if you are not happy together, you are better off apart.
In a typical Indian society, we call marriage "7 Janam Ka Rishta" kind of thing, but it is when you both are into it with your heart and soul.
Or what it is otherwise if you can't stand at each other, can barely talk without arguing, more or less, if you two belong to two different planets all together...
I know "Divorce" is still a Taboo in India. Because the stupid society is okay to have unhappy couple than happy individuals. I don't understand what's their problem and why can't they be bothered about their own stuff. It's a 3rd class mindset wrapped in 1st class setting. Well, why should we be so concerned of them, they don't really deserve it.
So the point is, for a time being, forget about the world, forget the society, keep the family aside for a while, and ask yourself "Are you happy being with the one you married or committed year/s ago??"
If the answer is "NO", you gotta think on it.
Guys, you get your life only once...just because you made a mistake years ago, doesn't mean you gotta suffer life time.
If you think, it was a mistake to tie the knot...it would be terrible to be tied up forever...
Please understand, "Successful marriages" are not the one that "Lasted", but the one that "HAPPILY" did. If in the early stage itself, you realised that you two just don't match up...talk about it. Have a proper discussion over it. Arrive at a solution mutually.
Though you two are totally different people, you still can lead a great life together only if you respect and appreciate the differences you have. But if you are just two extremes that can never meet, what's the point of wasting years of your life regretting.
Look, it's easier to get separated than after having a baby and dragging that poor kid into your mess. Plan a baby, when you are physically, mentally, economically and mutually ready for it and not just because you are hitting your 30's or family is pressurising.
Firstly know yourself, know the other person well enough to decide whether you want your kid to have a parent like him/her. This is very important decision...take it cautiously...there gonna be a new life joining your little world...bring it only if you can give your child a good time. Don't make that kid suffer for your immature decisions.
Again it might happen that you have a family and decades of togetherness but you are not really happy in it. For whatever reason may be, if you are not into the relationship you two share, you have to talk about it.
I am not saying that, Divorce is a solution to every little argument or fight coming in your way but if there is nothing else than arguments and fights, try staying apart...
You might realise the worth of other or the fact that you are better off without each other...
Friends, when you are not happy together, it drains your kid mentally. The child grows up with commitment issues...gradually loosing faith in love and family values.
You being fighting and shouting all over the house is stealing the peace of mind of everyone around.
You might try molding yourself into something that the other person wants, just to sustain that relationship but that's not right. Don't loose yourself to win someone else.
Don't even try to change the other person coz then you are being unfair. Accept him/her the way he/she is...or leave them on there own.
Just don't cheat on your partner. Be fair, be true, please don't lie or back stab. Just because you are not satisfied in relationship, doesn't mean you can engage yourself in extra marital affairs.
Get separated and start your life over again but don't play with the other person's feelings, never break anyone's trust...
Leave with dignity, to live with dignity...
And remember, it's never too late to rectify your mistakes...
Think Thoroughly...Decide Firmly...and Live Happily...
