How to Deal with your Partner's Depression

Depression is a phase where one lacks his or her self esteem. When one is depressed, he/she is not disappointed with anyone else but themselves, that gradually builds to the state where they are trapped in their own thoughts that make them believe ‘bad luck is all their destiny is...’

This depression does not just kill their personality but acts as a slow poison to kill them too. It leaves its effect all around the person, right from their health to mental stability, which eventually becomes matter of worrying for their dear ones.

Most of the times the person tries to distance him/herself from others because of the belief ‘bad luck is all their destiny is...’  When they try to distance you, if you get apart, they won’t ever get out of the mess of depression and it is when as partner your role comes in.

You need to ensure few simple things

1. Don’t let them skip meals: empty stomach builds circle of negativity, if you can join their dinner table, it will be much better

2. Take silent walk after dinner: words can’t cure things as effectively as your mere presence can do. While walking take their hand in yours, when you have eye contact smile at them. Don’t stretch the situation, behave normally.

3. Discuss the day: before bed, you must have some sort of communication, ‘how was the day’ can be good start for it. If there was something wrong pretend it to be fine, as if nothing like a great loss. Share some romantic moments to cheer them up.

4. Start a day with their smile: insist them to be there when you wake up. Tell them their smile is your lucky charm, and you love to start your day with their smiley face. It will in terms make their day.

5. Make break-fast together: if possible cook together, feed them with your hands, ask them to feed you. Start day with sweet moments.

6. Give 'Good-bye hug': before any of you leave home, give them hug n a soft kiss, wish a good-day, don’t forget to say you will miss them.

7. 'Miss you' messages: if calls can disturb them, send them messages like ’miss you’, ‘love you’. If she has made Tiffin for you, take efforts to call n appreciate it. If you have cooked for him, call to ask if he liked it.

8. Take surprise holiday: to change the mood, holiday is the best option ever. Spend the whole day just two of you. Have long drive, go for movie, share ice-cream and fight like kids for it. Propose them in public, the same way you saw in the movie, take dinner of their choice.

9. Go for shopping: shopping has been proved to release stress, go for it once in awhile, insist to take your favourite colour, give them compliments on the dress they try.

10. Watch their favourite show: to take a break after stressful day, the idiot box can relax you. Watching their favourite show can make them happy. You can play their favourite song, can enjoying dancing on it.

Well, to do all these things don’t wait for your partner to go in depression, practicing these things in routine will act like ‘precaution is better than cure’  

Life is Awesome

Life is always Cool if you Don’t Boil it on the Steam of Worry.

Life is Exciting if you Don’t Mess it by Expecting.

Life is Awesome if you know to Keep Some Away.

Life is Fabulous if you be Fearless.

Life is Perfect if Protect Differences.

Life is Marvelous, if Sweet things are Magnified.

Life is All About for Whom to Fall & How not to.

How to build a long lasting Relationship?

                When we say relationship, it is not just between couples but between any two persons sharing a bond, may it be love, may it be friendship, may be family relation or may professional one.

Now why we need to have a long lasting relation?

                Cause life is long, not lasting forever but still pretty long...

Since we are born we share a bond with our mom, then dad, then siblings and family, gradually the relationship circle grows up to neighbourhood, schooling, clubbing, work place to society....

Not with everyone we meet, we share a bond...we do feel like being friends or being attached to few of them, that means they are special to you

So 1. Treat them a way they feel SPECIAL

From crowd of hundreds, you liked them only that means they are different from rest of the mob

So 2. RESPECT n APPRECIATE their differences.

When you chose them for you, you chose them the way they are, you liked them, you loved them for the same way they are

So 3. DON’T try to MODIFY their personality, let them the way they want to be.

Now when they are with you, make them feel they are not alone, they have someone, they can talk with, when they feel low or when they are at high; someone to care, to share and to dare with

So 4. Have SWEET REMINDERS of your presence.

If they mean something to you, let them know

So 5. PLEASE them with your actions.

If you didn’t like something, say upfront; don’t hurt with your actions or silence

So 6. CLARIFY things before you mess the relation.

When you are together, don’t talk about the rest of world, talk about your world; share laugh, share love

So 7. SPEND some QUALITY TIME together

Many times relations break not because of any of two, but because of the rumours from someone else. Know whom to trust on, don’t let anyone break your bond, you care about.

So the last one DON’T KEEP SPACE for third person to ruin your happiness n your relation

I really appreciate you read this till the end, that says you truly care for your relationship,

So here is a treat for you, the short cut for long lasting relationship

                TREAT THEM THE WAY YOU WILL LIKE TO BE TREATED...

NO MATTER WHAT...

After all it doesn’t matter, Why..How..When..Where...for What..for Whom, you live, coz you just have to..

Once you thought, the person was everything that meant to you...you thought you can never live further if they leave you...you probably have dreamt several times, How would it be if they were not there, in your life.. besides you.. for you forever....

And then, The Master proves you wrong.....the One, you thought your life is, is not even a part of it...so you keep your eyes closed as if everything is gone, you have just nothing to hold on...

You start believing that Life is miserable as Hell....No Hopes..No Ray...No Will..No Way...

But when you Dare to open your eyes...What you see, will amaze you; Life will not be Bad at all,  in fact it will be pretty Liveable...all your concepts will change, so as your priorities will do....

This is How It Works...No Matter What...Life Goes on...

HE keeps proving you Wrong...

When you feel, you are the strongest..HE breaks you

When you feel at all your low..HE awakes you

All HE wants you to do is to Move on..to live on..you just keep dreaming on...No Matter What

When in a dark room, a Shadow Ghost scares the hell out of you, scientifically it is the Reflection drawn by Little Light...that actually can be your Ray of Hope...so all you need to do is Change your Perception towards life...just Never Give Up...No Matter What...

DRESS FOR SUCCESS

Sounds little funny, right?? But is actually true... There is a dress for success... let’s say a Uniform of Successful People. When we call it "UNIFORM", it’s not just about an Attire but the Attitude, the Discipline, the Policy of operation and much more

If we split the word         UNIFORM           UNI+FORM         UNIQUE FORMAT

Now things appear pretty clear, It is the Unique Format of Appearance universally adopted by the Successful People

Now the question lies, What is Success??

A Wise person gave a short, simple n perfect definition, “SUCCESS is when your SIGNATURE changes to AUTOGRAPH..” isn’t it??

So now our Goal is clear ‘To be the one whom people will approach for an Autograph; i.e. to be a LEADER or an IDOL .‘

Getting back to the point of a Dress for Success, let’s start with bottom

Find a SHOE that works for you- Noone else is walking in your shoe, so look for what works for you. People might judge you for your choice but these same people will say you made a wise move after you prove.

Wear the TROUSERS of your size- Your trousers=your expectations. Your capabilities here for instance will be your waist size. If your TROUSERS are of wrong size, will it stay in put?? No, right?

So carry the expectations equals to your capabilities, else you will end up with frustration, keep track on your capabilities then improve it, now your expectation n performance will go hand in hand. 

Buckle the right BELT- that means your expectations should be precised to your goal so as to keep you always on the desired track.

Choose a SHIRT suiting on your TROUSERS- Act suitably to pursue what you expected initially.

TIE your Responsibilities- Don’t blame anyone else for your failure, take the responsibility of your action and it’s reactions, identify what went wrong and rectify it.

Your COAT is your Code-   Your attitude dictates what type of person you are, it is very important to know what you stand for.

Don't miss the WATCH- Keep your eye on time, don’t be late else you will miss the opportunities.

Don’t hide your FACE behind make up- Don’t cover your identity with false masks, be honest, be faithful, be the one you actually are...

This all is enough to be successful...definitely not very easy, it will never be....but as they say, “Don’t wait for things to be Easy..better you be Tough...”