CONNECTION without NETWORKS

I wonder, how people waited so long to get the revert in Postal Mailing Era...
I can't freaking wait for a moment once the tick turns blue...

With technology blessing us with quick connectivity, we kinda lost our patience, didn't we?
If we call someone and they don't answer, we keep buzzing every five minutes...
Three missed calls and we would be worried like hell and most of the times for no reason...

Then came Internet, another divine invention, that made the world dance on our finger tips.. and we lost the very patience we were left with..
Slow network makes us throw the phone away...
Coz we just can't wait, it gave rise to 2G then 3G now 4G and God knows how many G's more to go...

But I wonder how people waited to meet someone in person and share their thoughts.. unlike today when everything is shared on text and calls...

People fall in love on phone...they get to know the other person over calls and text and of course their FB posts, insta updates, tweets...retweets...
And then one fine day, they break up over text saying "we don't really connect"

 Isn't that terrible,
We lost Touch while "being in touch..."
We are friends on "Facebook" with people we might not recognise "face to face..."
What's app status is like all the update we have for few...

Its like, in this virtual era we lost the person in real...
Technology indeed is a blessing...that made the connectivity easy...but the connections pretty rare...

No matter how far you be...meet your loved ones at least once a month...
Don't just plan the trips with your buddies...go for it...not to "check in" some resort or posting selfies but to live the moment before its gone...

Rather than leaving a fancy FB wall and geniusly photoshoped insta pics...leave the memories behind...the memories made in person and not in mere text conversations...

Get on your knees to propose...hold her in arms instead of holding a stupid phone...visit the places of your interest...revisit the places where you got old...explore the world with open eyes and not the digicam...cherish each moment you spent together...coz that's how you would CONNECT....without 3G and 4G networks...

PS: and for God sake...never fight over texts or break up over calls...Get in person...sort it out and leave with dignity without being coward...

When an OPEN opens up....

Senior college... First year... 2nd or 3rd day probably....they made an "Important announcement"
A fellow came to ask, who all were eligible for scholarship, few people put their hands up, I was one of them. Then he said the "Scholarship" forms are available in office and the eligible students are asked to fill the same within a week.
Next day, I went to college with all my mark sheets, I was standing in the queue, with pride of having the first pay cheque in my name...
Came my turn, I handed over my documents, and asked for the form, the person at counter checked my docs and threw a weird question at me, "Where is the Caste Certificate?"

I was like 'whatttt?'
I said, I don't have any. He replied, "Then you are not eligible for for the 'Scholarship'."

and I was like 'whattttt again'
I got all confused, I was topper of my college, I secured 88% in 12th board exam (to be more precise it was the time when marks were not given like Khirapat)

So the point is, definitely I deserved a Scholarship, it was as simple as that.
Then, how can not having a caste certificate matter????

It took me some time to get over the depressing fact that the SCHOLARSHIP was not for Scholars rather it was for the people with so called "Low Caste" tag.

The first thing that popped in my frustrated mind was WHY IN THE WHOLE UNIVERSE WILL YOU CALL IT A SCHOLARSHIP, IF A TALENT IS NOT AT ALL A PART OF CONSIDERATION??????

I feel pity for the nation where the Caste certificate speaks louder than your Mark sheet.

I feel bad, really bad when a reserved gets the seat and not the deserved one.

I feel broken, being in a nation where a Caste determines your need (that has ultimately became a greed...)

And for this thing, though I love India, I am NOT proud to be an Indian.

I just don't understand, how can giving reservation be an equality measure?
Coz it's purely an attempt of division and not integration...

I mean seriously, we never knew the caste of our friends until the "SCHOLARSHIP" came in the picture....

Marriage - for Soul or Society??

Once I asked my mom, "Which one, in your opinion, is a good girl-

The one who had 'n' number of boyfriends and several relationships, who kept hanging around with them, but after all these affairs, she ditched each one, and got married to the one, chosen by her parents,
Or
The girl who had been with only one guy, she loved him truly, the one who sustained their relationship through all ups and downs with loyalty n honesty and finally she requested parents to accept her choice and let them marry?"


Mom's answer was, "The one who finally married by her parents choice..."

She justified her answer by saying, "No matter what, you should always obey your parents' wish, they will choose the best thing for you, then again if a girl opts for a love marriage, her parents have to face allegations from the society."

The conversation ended abruptly....

And it kept me thinking, does that mean, loyalty in relationships is not important, rather being obedient to your parents for the sake of social esteem is...?

After all these years of sanskar and morality lessons, are we expected to consider society and its norms instead of the principles of trust and love...?

It doesn't matter if we are pure by soul or not, it's completely okay, if we can fake it, isn't it?

I am feeling very sorry for the mentality, we are nurturing in our society.
If we can't be loyal to our loved ones, how will we be loyal to our spouses?

I am neither against arranged marriages, nor am saying that parents don't seek the best interest of their child..

All I want to ask is, "While watching movies or reading novels, we like the love-stories, then why do we get offended by love marriages in real life, when we totally accept that love is a natural and the most divine feeling?"

As parents, you have been giving your children several lessons of values and morals since their childhood...
You educated and enabled them to take right decisions...
You laid down guidelines and principles, which became foundation of their lives...
After all these years of teaching, don't you trust their decisions, their choices..??

Why can't you trust their trust...??

If you can let them take charge of their shopping, their lifestyles, their careers, why not their lives...???

कुछ उनके नाम, जिनके बिना हम गुमनाम...

नन्हेसे कदमोंको जब चलना तक ना आता था,

तबसे कोई उंगली थामे खड़ा है,

तबसे  कोई कदमोंका सहारा बन खड़ा है।

चलनेकी सिख बनकर खड़ा है,

दौड़ का ख्वाब लेकर खड़ा है।

इक लफ्ज तक बोलना ना आता था,

तबसे कोई जुबां बन खड़ा है,

पा-पा सुनने के लिए खड़ा है, 

अपने नाम की गुंज पर मुस्कुराता खड़ा है,

अपनी जुबां देकर, हमें अपनी जुबां बनाने खड़ा है।

ना थी दुनिया की समझ, ना किसीकी फिकर

तबसे हमारी फिकर में कोई खड़ा है।

समाज को समझाता, दुनिया की फितरत में कोई खड़ा है। 

दुनिया के अच्छाई की, समाज के सच्चाई की सिख बनकर खड़ा है।

बुराई के ड़र से, झूठ के कहर से बचाने कोई खड़ा है। 

कोई खड़ा है ना शौक से ना शौकत से,

वो खड़ा है बस एक बाप बनकर।

शूल सा कठोर बनकर, बिजली की धार बनकर।

हर चोट पर मरहम बनकर, हर मरहम का असर बनकर।

वो बस खड़ा है अपने लिए नही अपनों के लिए,

अपनोने  देखे सपनो के लिए।

वो खड़ा है वृक्ष सा, बस देने की चाह लेकर 

हर मंजिल की राह लेकर, 

अपनी ईच्छा, आकांक्षा सभीको दाह देकर, 

वो खड़ा है इक वटवृक्ष बनकर।

उनकी शीतल छाव, उनकी अमोघ माया 

संकट की रात मे जिसका साथ वो अविरत छाया 

वो प्यार का सागर, वो ममता का झरना 

उन्हीसे सब,उन्हीका सब, गुमनाम सा बस इक निशान वरना